Episode 31: ACE Week

Kit Kowalski and Edie Wyatt talk about the world of sex and gender from a gender-critical perspective, not just the culture war, but law, policy, activism, feminism and all the nonsense.

Kit Kowalski

Dollhouse with Kit & Edie

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Edie Wyatt

Nov 01, 2023

Welcome to the Dollhouse Episode 31: ACE Week with Kit Kowalski and Edie Wyatt.

We Celebrate ACE Week…

…by talking about all the ways in which people DGAF and make it into a political statement.

What the ACE Community says about Asexuality

Australian Asexuals - the banner image says it all “I am not broken”.

Asexuality is an identity mixing - those who buck the trend toward over-sexualisation, those with low libido (is it diet-related?), those who wish to be celibate, groomers, de-sexed children, women who refuse sex and women who don’t refuse sex but want us to know they’d rather not be having it.

The ABC is pushing “asexuality” as a political identity - https://www.abc.net.au/listen/programs/ladies-we-need-to-talk/asexuality-i-dont-want-to-have-sex-ever/13889740

Sounds Fake But OK Podcast episode delves into the hosts’ “TED Talk” about asexuality, and highlights the depths of contradiction of the ACE identity. https://www.soundsfakepod.com/transcripts/what-is-asexuality

ACON are also driving the conversation in workplaces. This workplace seminar was given by an asexual-identifying woman, and facilitated by ACON’s Pride in Diversity group. Click here.

Asexuality is commodification

The primary analytic tool behind asexuality is the “split model of attraction” that holds romantic and sexual attraction are separate. A person can be completely lacking in one dimension, and fully developed in another.

Asexuality is cover

It is a cover for groomers and abusers. Girl Guides UK were criticised for celebrating ACE Week back in 2021. Asexuality gives cover to abusers to access victims by claiming they are not a sexual threat.

The “split model" of attraction” allows aromantics access into the “asexual umbrella”. These are people who claim no romantic feeling but full sexual feeling. So an ‘aromantic’ can use the identity label ‘asexual’ to put women at ease, thinking they are safe from sexual advances. Or to put parents at ease that their children are safe from sexual predation.

The identify gives a read reason why de-sexed children may not have sexually matured. Jazz Jennings’ mother can muse that her son may be an asexual to avoid confronting the consequences of puberty blockers and penectomy on a child.

Asexuality can be an escape - for some

The asexual identity can be an escape from pornified over-sexed expectations of others in society. It can give women time and space by furnishing them with a reason to refuse sex.

Or outsource sex. Asexuality supports the sex-industry. Many asexual women encourage their male partners to have sex with prostitutes to fulfil their biological urges without emotional entanglement. There are also links between asexuality and “Ethical Non-Monogamy” - the practice of maintaining multiple romantic and sexual partnerships simultaneously.

Asexuals have sex

Asexuals “choose” to have sex - for money, to get intimacy, “for the partner’s needs” or to have a baby. Asexuals don’t experience attraction but they also cannot escape from doing the deed.